I once wrote a weekly newsletter for small group leaders. In these Thoughts on Discipleship posts, I reprint those articles.
I read an article by Carter Moss entitled “5 Mistakes That Ruin Small Groups.” Here are the main points and some thoughts.
1. Allowing an Unsafe Environment. We must emphasize to our group members that they are free to share without judgment or fear of broken confidentiality. If they believe that sharing may have adverse consequences, they won’t bother. This should be a constant area of attention.
2. Moving at the Wrong Speed. When leading a class, it’s important to “read the room.” Is there a look of confusion on many of the faces you see as you teach? If so, the topic may need more explanation. Going too slowly is a similar issue – participants may get bored and uninterested. Also, allow for times when group members are in need, and be sensitive to how the group can be there for them. Don’t be completely beholden to the “plan.”
3. Getting Together Only for Meetings. Intentionally plan opportunities for your group to get together, and encourage members to get together on their own.
4. Killing the Group Discussion. When asking a question, be the last to answer, even if it produces awkward silences sometimes. I personally love playing devil’s advocate – hypothetically take the opposing view of a topic once in a while. I love Carter’s suggestion: “How would you explain this to a non-Christian who doesn’t buy it?”(1 Peter 3:15)
5. Sticking Together Too Long. This may be the hardest suggestion. Healthy groups replicate themselves, usually by division. Who are you equipping to lead?
Not a Camouflaged Soul 